This stands as one of two oracle-like statements I have heard repeatedly; the other one being, "Prepare yourself for a marathon, not a sprint." But I am one that has to experience these things for myself rather than take things as pronounced. So far, however, both seem to be true. And, even at nearly two months after the accident, these are still very early days. That too is very hard to believe and to take.
M's getting better means that he is frustrated and feels confined (without understanding he is and why). He's angry when I don't take him back to his room (where he will ask 30 times in 30 minutes to go to bed, telling me to get out of the way; no, go over there; now, get me up....) Being in his wheelchair a very long time every day builds his endurance. But, being in a hospital with noises and interruptions and even because of his injury, sleep at night is short and fitful. So he is tired and he is bored. His attention span is very short, so reading or even watching TV fail to entertain (or if you're anti-TV like me, fails to stupify).
I take him 'round the hospital to redirect his attention, but he gets so frustrated, he tells me to get in the chair, so he can get up and push me, and tells me and tells me....
To keep him (and many of the other patients) safely in his chair, the buckles on the seatbelts can only be opened not by a special key, but any thin sharp object such as a pencil. He's smart enough (again evidence of a good thing) that he knows this and he now fashions his own tools to open the buckle. If he should succeed (pray not), he would fall, a very serious but common risk in TBI (traumatic brain injury) patients.
He perserverates about bed less when he is away from his room, so I'll wheel him out to the day room, but he is so strong that he can DRAG the wheelchair, brakes locked, back to his room.
Please pray that these behaviors pass quickly. Please also pray that I not be afraid. I'm very concerned about my ability to cope with these behaviors at home, the children's responses, and my ability to find a caregiver who will cope adequately. I pray to always be reminded that the problems now may soon pass, though the perserveration about bed has lasted for a week now. Pray for wisdom for me and pray that we will emerge with a stronger marriage and stronger family ties.
Psalm 121
A song of ascents.
1 I lift up my eyes to the hills—
where does my help come from?
2 My help comes from the LORD,
the Maker of heaven and earth.
3 He will not let your foot slip—
he who watches over you will not slumber;
4 indeed, he who watches over Israel
will neither slumber nor sleep.
5 The LORD watches over you—
the LORD is your shade at your right hand;
6 the sun will not harm you by day,
nor the moon by night.
7 The LORD will keep you from all harm—
he will watch over your life;
8 the LORD will watch over your coming and going
both now and forevermore.
Saturday, March 31, 2007
Tuesday, March 27, 2007
Last week of March
The trend continues with me getting good reports from all of his therapists. This week M has graduated to a smaller wheelchair, one that he will be learning to propel. He can move forward and back, but needs help steering, since all the (human) power for now comes from his right side. They will practice that in therapy.
I’m slowly pulling back at the hospital as M improves enough to be testy with me for not doing everything for him (when he needs to do the work to get better). I’m at home with the kids at night, which is good for them too, though I miss not knowing everything that M experiences day and night. I’ll go still further and resume work next week.
M is still on track to come home in early May and I’ll have to get prepared. He’s improving rapidly enough that it’s hard to know exactly what to do, but I’m nearly certain we’ll need a ramp. We are in a tiny 1924 bungalow, with every space already spoken for and then some, so I may have to evict a kiddo from his or her room if M has to have a hospital bed and toileting facilities. I think our bathroom is too small for wheelchair access, but the occupational therapist will evaluate that.
We’ll also probably need at least a part-time caregiver. M will not need skilled nursing care (and so the insurance will not pay toward care), but should not be left unattended for a minute, at least at first while he still recovers. Please let me know any suggestions or referrals you might have.
I am exceedingly grateful that a former paralegal of M’s stepped forward to organize a dinner and auction Friday, May 4th. More details are forthcoming, but I just heard of a beautiful offer, a hunting weekend in the brush country, from a colleague of his that will be available at the auction. Please see the next entry for details.
Even in my darker moments, I know God has us in the palm of his hand and we are lifted up by so many friends.
I’m slowly pulling back at the hospital as M improves enough to be testy with me for not doing everything for him (when he needs to do the work to get better). I’m at home with the kids at night, which is good for them too, though I miss not knowing everything that M experiences day and night. I’ll go still further and resume work next week.
M is still on track to come home in early May and I’ll have to get prepared. He’s improving rapidly enough that it’s hard to know exactly what to do, but I’m nearly certain we’ll need a ramp. We are in a tiny 1924 bungalow, with every space already spoken for and then some, so I may have to evict a kiddo from his or her room if M has to have a hospital bed and toileting facilities. I think our bathroom is too small for wheelchair access, but the occupational therapist will evaluate that.
We’ll also probably need at least a part-time caregiver. M will not need skilled nursing care (and so the insurance will not pay toward care), but should not be left unattended for a minute, at least at first while he still recovers. Please let me know any suggestions or referrals you might have.
I am exceedingly grateful that a former paralegal of M’s stepped forward to organize a dinner and auction Friday, May 4th. More details are forthcoming, but I just heard of a beautiful offer, a hunting weekend in the brush country, from a colleague of his that will be available at the auction. Please see the next entry for details.
Even in my darker moments, I know God has us in the palm of his hand and we are lifted up by so many friends.
Monday, March 26, 2007
Time catches us
Some day we will exist unbound by time and space, but for now, in mortal bodies, we are carried inexorably forward. M slowly is getting used to the rhythm of the week, with the work week contantly busy. On the weekends, he is more restless, with little scheduled work to use up his energy. And he struggles to make sense of time -- day and night, minutes and hours. M can read, so I have written important milestones and facts from his life and posted these on the wall of his room. As I put one sheet on the wall, M says, "We were married in 1946." No actually, I say, we ARE 46, but we married in 1981, as I hasten to add that to the paper.
On April 2nd, he will have spent a month at TIRR, very profitably so. M has progressed wonderfully. But there is so much more to be done (I pray) and M's stay is projected to be halfway over. In early May, he will be coming home. And on the first Friday of May, friends have organized a fundraiser for us. Later in the month, we will celebrate our 26th wedding anniversary and then school will be out for the summer. Before then, I will return to work and we will be establishing a whole new rhythm to our lives. I pray that by then, M will be more moored by time. Blessings all!
On April 2nd, he will have spent a month at TIRR, very profitably so. M has progressed wonderfully. But there is so much more to be done (I pray) and M's stay is projected to be halfway over. In early May, he will be coming home. And on the first Friday of May, friends have organized a fundraiser for us. Later in the month, we will celebrate our 26th wedding anniversary and then school will be out for the summer. Before then, I will return to work and we will be establishing a whole new rhythm to our lives. I pray that by then, M will be more moored by time. Blessings all!
Thursday, March 22, 2007
Dh's recovery "incredible"
Today, in discussing M's recovery with his psychologist, I mentioned that M was doing so well that a great day was not good enough, I wanted incredible. The psychologist replied that his recovery is already incredible. He did not think upon admission that M would have improved to the point he is now by discharge in early May.
We have had so many answered prayers. One day, I hope to be able to enumerate them all. For now, let the most recent count suffice. Recently M's eyesight in both eyes has proven to be better than 20/20, he has no more hospital-acquired antibiotic-resistant bacteria, and he can maintain his blood sugar balance, so no longer requires insulin. He has a new roommate who also likes it quiet and dark, with an early bedtime, so no more late night interruptions. M had his best night's sleep yet last night and spent the morning standing up (with help), throwing a ball to a golden retriever named Ginger. He retains his sense of humor, wonderful richness of English usage, and dedication to hard work.
Oh, but the bills are starting to come in, many in the five figures to start. I've devoted all my time to M, so am on leave without pay from work (and feel guilty but grateful for my board's and co-workers' forebearance).
I took photos all around the house and measured all the doors to give to the therapists and soon will hear their recommendations for adaptations. And when M leaves TIRR, he must have round-the-clock supervision and will continue hours of rehab a day, with someone taking him and staying with him.
But -- and -- above all -- what more can I say? God has so blessed me with confidence in him and strength. And he has protected and held up the children. Thank you Jesus. Bless all those reading this and saying prayers or sending good wishes our way. Know that things can happen in an instant to turn your life upside down and treasure every profound or silly moment. This may have been the only way for M and I to understand life is not ours to control and that patience truly is a virtue.
From Paul's great statement of theology, the book of Romans -
18I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. 19The creation waits in eager expectation for the sons of God to be revealed. 20For the creation was subjected to frustration, not by its own choice, but by the will of the one who subjected it, in hope 21that the creation itself will be liberated from its bondage to decay and brought into the glorious freedom of the children of God.
22We know that the whole creation has been groaning as in the pains of childbirth right up to the present time. 23Not only so, but we ourselves, who have the firstfruits of the Spirit, groan inwardly as we wait eagerly for our adoption as sons, the redemption of our bodies. 24For in this hope we were saved. But hope that is seen is no hope at all. Who hopes for what he already has? 25But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently.
26In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groans that words cannot express. 27And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints in accordance with God's will.
28And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. 29For those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the likeness of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brothers. 30And those he predestined, he also called; those he called, he also justified; those he justified, he also glorified.
31What, then, shall we say in response to this? If God is for us, who can be against us? 32He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things? 33Who will bring any charge against those whom God has chosen? It is God who justifies. 34Who is he that condemns? Christ Jesus, who died—more than that, who was raised to life—is at the right hand of God and is also interceding for us. 35Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword? 36As it is written: "For your sake we face death all day long; we are considered as sheep to be slaughtered." 37No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. 38For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, 39neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Romans 8: 18-38 NIV
We have had so many answered prayers. One day, I hope to be able to enumerate them all. For now, let the most recent count suffice. Recently M's eyesight in both eyes has proven to be better than 20/20, he has no more hospital-acquired antibiotic-resistant bacteria, and he can maintain his blood sugar balance, so no longer requires insulin. He has a new roommate who also likes it quiet and dark, with an early bedtime, so no more late night interruptions. M had his best night's sleep yet last night and spent the morning standing up (with help), throwing a ball to a golden retriever named Ginger. He retains his sense of humor, wonderful richness of English usage, and dedication to hard work.
Oh, but the bills are starting to come in, many in the five figures to start. I've devoted all my time to M, so am on leave without pay from work (and feel guilty but grateful for my board's and co-workers' forebearance).
I took photos all around the house and measured all the doors to give to the therapists and soon will hear their recommendations for adaptations. And when M leaves TIRR, he must have round-the-clock supervision and will continue hours of rehab a day, with someone taking him and staying with him.
But -- and -- above all -- what more can I say? God has so blessed me with confidence in him and strength. And he has protected and held up the children. Thank you Jesus. Bless all those reading this and saying prayers or sending good wishes our way. Know that things can happen in an instant to turn your life upside down and treasure every profound or silly moment. This may have been the only way for M and I to understand life is not ours to control and that patience truly is a virtue.
From Paul's great statement of theology, the book of Romans -
18I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. 19The creation waits in eager expectation for the sons of God to be revealed. 20For the creation was subjected to frustration, not by its own choice, but by the will of the one who subjected it, in hope 21that the creation itself will be liberated from its bondage to decay and brought into the glorious freedom of the children of God.
22We know that the whole creation has been groaning as in the pains of childbirth right up to the present time. 23Not only so, but we ourselves, who have the firstfruits of the Spirit, groan inwardly as we wait eagerly for our adoption as sons, the redemption of our bodies. 24For in this hope we were saved. But hope that is seen is no hope at all. Who hopes for what he already has? 25But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently.
26In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groans that words cannot express. 27And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints in accordance with God's will.
28And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. 29For those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the likeness of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brothers. 30And those he predestined, he also called; those he called, he also justified; those he justified, he also glorified.
31What, then, shall we say in response to this? If God is for us, who can be against us? 32He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things? 33Who will bring any charge against those whom God has chosen? It is God who justifies. 34Who is he that condemns? Christ Jesus, who died—more than that, who was raised to life—is at the right hand of God and is also interceding for us. 35Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword? 36As it is written: "For your sake we face death all day long; we are considered as sheep to be slaughtered." 37No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. 38For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, 39neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Romans 8: 18-38 NIV
Wednesday, March 21, 2007
Sleep and wake cycles still disturbed
As you might imagine, being in an ICU as M was for a month can totally disrupt the normal sleep-wake cycle. Add to that the injury itself and concommitant confusion about what night and day are, and the result is that some days M is less energetic during the day and every day he is wide awake at 3 in the morning.
Yesterday (on Tuesday), M spent time standing with support in both occupational and physical therapy. He's doing well in his group, "Memorex," for memory issues. He was pretty tired during speech, though. Please pray for stamina for all of us and for his left hand to respond as his left leg is.
We are having glorious spring weather and I pray we will be able to return to enjoying the outdoors as a family. God bless you and keep you.
Yesterday (on Tuesday), M spent time standing with support in both occupational and physical therapy. He's doing well in his group, "Memorex," for memory issues. He was pretty tired during speech, though. Please pray for stamina for all of us and for his left hand to respond as his left leg is.
We are having glorious spring weather and I pray we will be able to return to enjoying the outdoors as a family. God bless you and keep you.
Monday, March 19, 2007
Dh still progressing
He's shaky in math, not knowing which is greater - three or five, but conversing up a storm. You can really tell he's trying to piece things together and is really trying to figure out things. His strength and stamina also are improving.
M's recovery to date is nothing short of miraculous. Every milestone that is set, he reaches much more quickly than estimated. Even so, it is unequivocal that he will need complete supervision at home and likely quite a bit of equipment, at least for a while. We're told his healing will continue for more than a year.
I must thank God for giving me strength and peace, and a conviction and direction. I also thank him for the work he has done in our lives so far. The children remain remarkably well adjusted and have drawn closer to one another. I thank also all those who have been helping with them and keeping an eye out for them. And most of all, thank you God, for answering so many prayers for M's healing. Please, all, continue to pray. Bless you.
M's recovery to date is nothing short of miraculous. Every milestone that is set, he reaches much more quickly than estimated. Even so, it is unequivocal that he will need complete supervision at home and likely quite a bit of equipment, at least for a while. We're told his healing will continue for more than a year.
I must thank God for giving me strength and peace, and a conviction and direction. I also thank him for the work he has done in our lives so far. The children remain remarkably well adjusted and have drawn closer to one another. I thank also all those who have been helping with them and keeping an eye out for them. And most of all, thank you God, for answering so many prayers for M's healing. Please, all, continue to pray. Bless you.
Improvements and setbacks
Mark's ability to converse astounds at times. His memory remains also amazing, but in its loss. All weekend, too, he was so restless in the wheelchair that he was unable to stay in it the desired six to eight hours. Today I'll be speaking with the doctors and therapists about addressing the restlessness - is it a healing brain, adjusted medication, poor wheelchair fit, or something else. Bless you and thank you for your prayers and support.
Psalm 111
1[a] Praise the LORD. I will extol the LORD with all my heart in the council of the upright and in the assembly.
2 Great are the works of the LORD;
they are pondered by all who delight in them.
3 Glorious and majestic are his deeds,
and his righteousness endures forever.
4 He has caused his wonders to be remembered;
the LORD is gracious and compassionate.
Psalm 111
1[a] Praise the LORD. I will extol the LORD with all my heart in the council of the upright and in the assembly.
2 Great are the works of the LORD;
they are pondered by all who delight in them.
3 Glorious and majestic are his deeds,
and his righteousness endures forever.
4 He has caused his wonders to be remembered;
the LORD is gracious and compassionate.
Saturday, March 17, 2007
Conversations
We had a meeting yesterday with the therapy team. All attended except his rehab dr, who leads the team. All note M was progressing rapidly and was expected to continue to improve for a year or more. Right now, he has problems focusing on instructions and following through, though that is improving. His ability to communicate has improved greatly to the point he can hold on to a train of thought long enough to have a brief conversation. He still has a long way to go in controlling his body. He's in a wheelchair that tilts because he has difficulty controlling his trunk, head and neck for very long (last week he couldn't control these at all). Right now he's working on skills for standing, with lots of mechanical and human assistance. Have a wonderful weekend! God is good.
Friday, March 16, 2007
Teaching the therapists
He remembered yesterday marked the Ides of March, when Julius Caesar was assassinated, something his therapists did not know. M has been reading, speaking ,and writing more. He stood in a standing frame (which helps with a lot of support and alignment). But the left arm remains motionless, not responding either to volitional control or reflexes. And M has very restless nights, making concentration during the day harder. Please be in prayer for all these and for complete healing. Blessings all.
Thursday, March 15, 2007
After the rain, a rainbow
Even with all the concerns of my post yesterday, we have been so richly blessed, there's always hope, and we have the evidence of things seen as well. M can hold his head up, has the stamina to stay in the wheelchair for five hours or more, and began to write yesterday. I can't read all of it, but I can some - it looks like pieces of a draft of a settlement of all things.
His sister and I saw M's occupational therapist and she was very encouraging, as have been all the other members of his team. His estimated discharge date remains early May. And today he starts his pet therapy group.
Some of you have remarked on the time stamp for these posts. Maybe it's Pacific time? Please don't be concerned, I am not writing these at three in the morning, but usually at 5, which is our normal early morning wake-up.
He Will if You Will
Author: Elisabeth Elliot
Source: A Lamp For My Feet
Scripture: 2 Corinthians 1:11-11
All through the Bible we see the interworking of the will of God and the will of man. It was God, Creator and Sovereign, who conceived freedom for man--the glorious likeness to Himself in "the dignity of causality," to use Pascal's phrase. All things are so arranged in God's universe that He may work his will through man's exercising his gift of a free will. It is a gift, and one which, while it confers staggering power on us humans, also limits the Almighty. Here lies the tremendous mystery--that God should be all-powerful, yet refuse to coerce. He summons us to cooperation. We are honored in being given the opportunity to participate in his good deeds. Remember how He asked for help in performing his miracles: Fill the waterpots, stretch out your hand, distribute the loaves.
This little word of Paul's to the Corinthian Christians contains the whole kernel of that truth: "He will deliver us if you will cooperate by praying" (2 Cor 1:11).
Is there something you are hoping for today? Perhaps there is a condition you must fulfill before the Lord can grant it. He will if you will.
His sister and I saw M's occupational therapist and she was very encouraging, as have been all the other members of his team. His estimated discharge date remains early May. And today he starts his pet therapy group.
Some of you have remarked on the time stamp for these posts. Maybe it's Pacific time? Please don't be concerned, I am not writing these at three in the morning, but usually at 5, which is our normal early morning wake-up.
He Will if You Will
Author: Elisabeth Elliot
Source: A Lamp For My Feet
Scripture: 2 Corinthians 1:11-11
All through the Bible we see the interworking of the will of God and the will of man. It was God, Creator and Sovereign, who conceived freedom for man--the glorious likeness to Himself in "the dignity of causality," to use Pascal's phrase. All things are so arranged in God's universe that He may work his will through man's exercising his gift of a free will. It is a gift, and one which, while it confers staggering power on us humans, also limits the Almighty. Here lies the tremendous mystery--that God should be all-powerful, yet refuse to coerce. He summons us to cooperation. We are honored in being given the opportunity to participate in his good deeds. Remember how He asked for help in performing his miracles: Fill the waterpots, stretch out your hand, distribute the loaves.
This little word of Paul's to the Corinthian Christians contains the whole kernel of that truth: "He will deliver us if you will cooperate by praying" (2 Cor 1:11).
Is there something you are hoping for today? Perhaps there is a condition you must fulfill before the Lord can grant it. He will if you will.
Wednesday, March 14, 2007
Real life begins again
In a way, the past six weeks have been almost a dream state, a hiatus, a pause while home and work and family life are in abeyance. The children have been cared for by others to a large extent and now they are out of town with relatives for spring break. I've left my work responsibilities to others for a time and even my dog is being cared for by others.
Though I'm not consciously thinking this, I'm sure a part of me is running on adrenaline and denial until real life (our old life) resumes. Fostering this sense of abeyance is being at the hospital while M works and improves every day. But soon he's coming home and nothing will ever be the same. I know it will be better than now and pray that in the end it will be better than before. I keep praying to rely on God; not to be anxious, for he will care for us.
For the children, I will be responsible, as always except lately. I will be responsible for their everyday needs; meals, laundry, chauffer service, homework supervision. At least for a while, I will sorely miss M's participation. He was a full partner in caring for the children and house. You see, I have to use past tense now. For all this time, I have resisted referring to things as if they were not true now. (For example, saying M cooks all the meals on the weekends. I have to say now M used to cook all our weekend meals.)
Soon, for the children I will have the usual responsibilities (which I haven't had for several weeks) and also must help with their new emotional needs coming from living in a family where their Daddy is not the support of the family but needs more care than they do.
On the financial end, most of our adult lives, M's salary supported the family. Indeed, we have been blessed in having the ability for me to stay home with the children for more than ten years. Though I have returned to work, my income cannot cover our basic living expenses, let alone any additional needs. Nor do we have health insurance except through M's work.
And above all (at least in my list today) is M's needs. Right now it's constant care. He cannot feed himself, he cannot turn over in bed, let alone get up and move from one room to another. He will require someone on hand 24 hours a day. How will I work? How will I get the kids back and forth to school? We've always been on the go and he'll have countless appointments and I don't even know how or if I can get him in and out of our van.
Real life can't be held off much longer. Friday TIRR staff will hold a family training session for me, when I will hear their prognosis and what family must be able to do. Please be in prayer for us.
Already God has met so many of our needs through our support system here on earth. Everyone has been so helpful in sharing my burdens. On the financial end, too, friends have stepped forward to organize a benefit to defray our new expenses. ...Bless you all.
25Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment?
26Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feedeth them. Are ye not much better than they?
27Which of you by taking thought can add one cubit unto his stature?
28And why take ye thought for raiment? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin:
29And yet I say unto you, That even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these.
30Wherefore, if God so clothe the grass of the field, which to day is, and to morrow is cast into the oven, shall he not much more clothe you, O ye of little faith?
31Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed?
32(For after all these things do the Gentiles seek:) for your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things.
33But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
34Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.
Matthew 6:25-34
Never again will they hunger; never again will they thirst. The sun will not beat upon them, nor any scorching heat. For the Lamb at the center of the throne will be their shepherd; he will lead them to springs of living water. And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes."
Revelations 7:16-17
Though I'm not consciously thinking this, I'm sure a part of me is running on adrenaline and denial until real life (our old life) resumes. Fostering this sense of abeyance is being at the hospital while M works and improves every day. But soon he's coming home and nothing will ever be the same. I know it will be better than now and pray that in the end it will be better than before. I keep praying to rely on God; not to be anxious, for he will care for us.
For the children, I will be responsible, as always except lately. I will be responsible for their everyday needs; meals, laundry, chauffer service, homework supervision. At least for a while, I will sorely miss M's participation. He was a full partner in caring for the children and house. You see, I have to use past tense now. For all this time, I have resisted referring to things as if they were not true now. (For example, saying M cooks all the meals on the weekends. I have to say now M used to cook all our weekend meals.)
Soon, for the children I will have the usual responsibilities (which I haven't had for several weeks) and also must help with their new emotional needs coming from living in a family where their Daddy is not the support of the family but needs more care than they do.
On the financial end, most of our adult lives, M's salary supported the family. Indeed, we have been blessed in having the ability for me to stay home with the children for more than ten years. Though I have returned to work, my income cannot cover our basic living expenses, let alone any additional needs. Nor do we have health insurance except through M's work.
And above all (at least in my list today) is M's needs. Right now it's constant care. He cannot feed himself, he cannot turn over in bed, let alone get up and move from one room to another. He will require someone on hand 24 hours a day. How will I work? How will I get the kids back and forth to school? We've always been on the go and he'll have countless appointments and I don't even know how or if I can get him in and out of our van.
Real life can't be held off much longer. Friday TIRR staff will hold a family training session for me, when I will hear their prognosis and what family must be able to do. Please be in prayer for us.
Already God has met so many of our needs through our support system here on earth. Everyone has been so helpful in sharing my burdens. On the financial end, too, friends have stepped forward to organize a benefit to defray our new expenses. ...Bless you all.
25Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment?
26Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feedeth them. Are ye not much better than they?
27Which of you by taking thought can add one cubit unto his stature?
28And why take ye thought for raiment? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin:
29And yet I say unto you, That even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these.
30Wherefore, if God so clothe the grass of the field, which to day is, and to morrow is cast into the oven, shall he not much more clothe you, O ye of little faith?
31Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed?
32(For after all these things do the Gentiles seek:) for your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things.
33But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
34Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.
Matthew 6:25-34
Never again will they hunger; never again will they thirst. The sun will not beat upon them, nor any scorching heat. For the Lamb at the center of the throne will be their shepherd; he will lead them to springs of living water. And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes."
Revelations 7:16-17
Monday, March 12, 2007
Still improving
M spoke more today and he did very well in occupational therapy, controlling his body movements more. He can't control his left arm and hand at all, so please pray for that. He has trouble accessing short-term and some long-term memory as well. His brain continues to heal and the training and practice helps too.
Please also be in prayer for my cousin's brother-in-law Lee, who also is recovering from being critically ill, a massive staph infection in his case. Though the doctors had been very negative, Lee too is recovering more than the doctors expected, but has a far, far way to go.
Blessings all.
Please also be in prayer for my cousin's brother-in-law Lee, who also is recovering from being critically ill, a massive staph infection in his case. Though the doctors had been very negative, Lee too is recovering more than the doctors expected, but has a far, far way to go.
Blessings all.
Love never fails
I think of these verses from 1st Corinthians (see last paragraph) every day these days. Mark had a good Sunday and so did the rest of the family. As promised, speaking seems gradually to get easier and easier for him. Please continue to pray that he will regain control of his left side. Daily the right side gains strength.
Lenten devotional from Goshen College
The LORD says to Israel… I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with loving-kindness and I will build you up again… Jeremiah 31:3-4.
The Lenten season reminds us that Jesus opens his arms with everlasting love and kindness and invites us into God’s welcoming embrace. When we accept this invitation, we join with all God’s people in experiencing the depth and dimensions of what it means to be loved with an everlasting love. As we come to experience the welcome of Jesus, we are more able to open our arms in everlasting love to others as Jesus did, to those we love and to those we are inclined not to love. We can then hold the Christ-light for them and live out God’s welcoming love that they long to feel.
For love is patient, love is kind.It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.It is not rude, it is not self-seeking.It is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth.It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.Love never fails. (I Corinthians 13:4-8) Lent reminds us that God loves us with an everlasting love and build us up again. As we experience God’s love for us, we can more fully express God’s welcoming love to others.
Lenten devotional from Goshen College
The LORD says to Israel… I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with loving-kindness and I will build you up again… Jeremiah 31:3-4.
The Lenten season reminds us that Jesus opens his arms with everlasting love and kindness and invites us into God’s welcoming embrace. When we accept this invitation, we join with all God’s people in experiencing the depth and dimensions of what it means to be loved with an everlasting love. As we come to experience the welcome of Jesus, we are more able to open our arms in everlasting love to others as Jesus did, to those we love and to those we are inclined not to love. We can then hold the Christ-light for them and live out God’s welcoming love that they long to feel.
For love is patient, love is kind.It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.It is not rude, it is not self-seeking.It is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth.It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.Love never fails. (I Corinthians 13:4-8) Lent reminds us that God loves us with an everlasting love and build us up again. As we experience God’s love for us, we can more fully express God’s welcoming love to others.
Sunday, March 11, 2007
Our pup visits
With a newly minted seal of approval from therapeutic recreation, F had a long visit with M Saturday. I feared F wouldn't recognize his master, but he came right up to M in his wheelchair, tried to push up M's elbow with his nose for a pat, and finally jumped up on M's wheelchair to plant several wet doggie kisses on M's face. M laughed and reached out his hand to pet the dog. Also on Saturday, M spoke more and moved his left leg vigorously in response to stimulus.
At some point during his pilgrimages to various hospitals, M has been colonized by a multiple-drug resistant bacteria. He shows no sign of infection, but as long as he has the bacteria, he can infect others, so lots of extra precautions must be taken. I pray that no one else gets infected and the bacteria can be cleared from his system. In the meanwhile, he has to share a room with another man who has the same bacteria. This man's care requirements are such that all night nurses are in the room for hours at a time, with the lights on, making considerable noise. M is unable to get more than an hour or two of sleep. Please pray for all this to be resolved.
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light. Matthew 11:28-30, NIV
At some point during his pilgrimages to various hospitals, M has been colonized by a multiple-drug resistant bacteria. He shows no sign of infection, but as long as he has the bacteria, he can infect others, so lots of extra precautions must be taken. I pray that no one else gets infected and the bacteria can be cleared from his system. In the meanwhile, he has to share a room with another man who has the same bacteria. This man's care requirements are such that all night nurses are in the room for hours at a time, with the lights on, making considerable noise. M is unable to get more than an hour or two of sleep. Please pray for all this to be resolved.
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light. Matthew 11:28-30, NIV
Saturday, March 10, 2007
Elisabeth Elliot devotional
Elizabeth Elliot has had many wonderful ministries over the years. Some of you may hear her commentary on Christian radio, she has a wonderful voice and thought-provoking and comforting comments. You may also recognize her name from the movie, End of a Spear, about her first husband's death at the hands of South American tribesman and her return, toddler in tow, to evangelize that tribe.
Author: Elisabeth Elliot
Source: A Lamp For My Feet
Scripture: John 12:25
Hour of Glory
The miracle of Lazarus being raised from the grave brought the crowds waving palms to Jesus, proclaiming Him King. Even foreigners (some Greeks) heard of Him and asked his disciple Philip if they might see Him. This, surely, was his hour of glory.
Heaven's definition of glory, however, is a very different thing from earth's. "The hour has come," Jesus said to Philip and Andrew, "for the Son of Man to be glorified" (Jn 12:23 NEB). Then He illustrated his meaning: a grain of wheat is merely a solitary grain until it dies. It is death that brings glory, the glory of the rich harvest. It was not popular acclaim but popular rejection and his own suffering and death that constituted his "hour of glory," and He prayed to be spared that hour.
The one who would serve Him must understand the conditions. He must follow--into death--that is, he must "lose himself." Then, the promise is that he will be "kept safe for eternal life" (Jn 12:25) and honored by the Father. The hour of glory is the hour of suffering--seen from heaven's side.
Lord, be near us in our pain and grant us the clear eye of faith to see it from heaven's perspective. Jesus walked this road. Help us to follow him gladly.
Author: Elisabeth Elliot
Source: A Lamp For My Feet
Scripture: John 12:25
Hour of Glory
The miracle of Lazarus being raised from the grave brought the crowds waving palms to Jesus, proclaiming Him King. Even foreigners (some Greeks) heard of Him and asked his disciple Philip if they might see Him. This, surely, was his hour of glory.
Heaven's definition of glory, however, is a very different thing from earth's. "The hour has come," Jesus said to Philip and Andrew, "for the Son of Man to be glorified" (Jn 12:23 NEB). Then He illustrated his meaning: a grain of wheat is merely a solitary grain until it dies. It is death that brings glory, the glory of the rich harvest. It was not popular acclaim but popular rejection and his own suffering and death that constituted his "hour of glory," and He prayed to be spared that hour.
The one who would serve Him must understand the conditions. He must follow--into death--that is, he must "lose himself." Then, the promise is that he will be "kept safe for eternal life" (Jn 12:25) and honored by the Father. The hour of glory is the hour of suffering--seen from heaven's side.
Lord, be near us in our pain and grant us the clear eye of faith to see it from heaven's perspective. Jesus walked this road. Help us to follow him gladly.
Another favorite passage
1 Thessalonians 5:17-24 NIV
16Be joyful always; 17pray continually; 18give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus.
19Do not put out the Spirit's fire; 20do not treat prophecies with contempt. 21Test everything. Hold on to the good. 22Avoid every kind of evil.
23May God himself, the God of peace, sanctify you through and through. May your whole spirit, soul and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ. 24The one who calls you is faithful and he will do it.
16Be joyful always; 17pray continually; 18give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus.
19Do not put out the Spirit's fire; 20do not treat prophecies with contempt. 21Test everything. Hold on to the good. 22Avoid every kind of evil.
23May God himself, the God of peace, sanctify you through and through. May your whole spirit, soul and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ. 24The one who calls you is faithful and he will do it.
Prayers the world round
From the very beginning I have asked that prayers be poured out for M and the response blossomed. We have had prayers in Azerbaijan, Sri Lanka, and all over the U.S. Most sweetly, many are from friends of friends, or relatives of our children's teachers, or M's colleagues in a case he had years ago in Missouri, and so on. One of M's clients had a mass held for him. Another friend had a prayer sent to the western wall (wailing wall) of the Temple in Jerusalem.
At our church now, we have the three M's, I'm told. There's my dh, and also Mike H. who is battling melanoma and is in the midst of an intense chemo round, and Margaret H., who has been tenaciously and graciously battling cancer for a while. Her heartfelt emails helped inspire me to do this. Please pray for us all. And there's also the Nichols family, formerly at Vineyard of Houston, now in Georgia. Diabetes and cystic fibrosis stalks this family. I pray, as was prayed for me years ago,
Zephaniah 3:15-17
15 The LORD has taken away your punishment, he has turned back your enemy. The LORD, the King of Israel, is with you; never again will you fear any harm.
16 On that day they will say to Jerusalem, "Do not fear, O Zion; do not let your hands hang limp.
17 The LORD your God is with you, he is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, he will quiet you with his love, he will rejoice over you with singing."
At our church now, we have the three M's, I'm told. There's my dh, and also Mike H. who is battling melanoma and is in the midst of an intense chemo round, and Margaret H., who has been tenaciously and graciously battling cancer for a while. Her heartfelt emails helped inspire me to do this. Please pray for us all. And there's also the Nichols family, formerly at Vineyard of Houston, now in Georgia. Diabetes and cystic fibrosis stalks this family. I pray, as was prayed for me years ago,
Zephaniah 3:15-17
15 The LORD has taken away your punishment, he has turned back your enemy. The LORD, the King of Israel, is with you; never again will you fear any harm.
16 On that day they will say to Jerusalem, "Do not fear, O Zion; do not let your hands hang limp.
17 The LORD your God is with you, he is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, he will quiet you with his love, he will rejoice over you with singing."
Pruning the vine
I've been praying that God be glorified in all this, so the devotional below meant much to me. I know God is moving powerfully.
Many at TIRR and Hermann are clearly devout. Last night, the nurse changing M sang a spiritual over him. Many tell me to pray. Not all believe, though, and I have to remember not to assume (just as that's true for some of you reading this). All are amazed at M's progress and reassure me, knowing that light speed still doesn't seem fast enough for me.
Yesterday, M's nurse, Jorge said, "I don't know who you're praying to, but he's listening." I just said in return I KNOW who I am praying to. So the ground is being prepared. Please pray that M and I too will bear fruit.
From Goshen College
http://www.goshen.edu/cgi-bin/blosxom/devLent07/2007/Mar/09/March9-Justabitmore
March 9 - Just a bit more
By Malinda Berry, visiting scholar in religion and women’s studies.
Scripture: Luke 13:1-9 (NRSV) Scroll down for complete scripture.
Devotional:When I first read today’s lection, I thought it rather odd — there are lots of pronouns and not much context. In my copy of the NRSV titles to chapter thirteen’s opening section "Repent or Perish" which makes some sense: "Produce fruit or be cut down!" But I find I’m more interested in the gardener’s intercessory pleading with his employer: "Wait, give me a chance to nurture the tree a bit more. If nothing changes, then you can do what you want with it." At face value, it appears as though Abba is the vineyard owner, Jesus is the gardener and humankind is the unproductive fig tree. But parables are never that simple. Commentators point out that Jesus tells this story in response to the talk about town regarding Pilate’s suppression of a recent Jewish uprising in Galilee. The Gailean rebels failed in their attempt to overthrow Pilate, Caesar’s local representative — their actions, like what the vineyard owner proposes, were rash and brought death. But criticizing those who died and the way they died doesn’t make the living virtuous. So where does that leave us? From where I sit, this parable is about more than righteousness, judgment and intercession. I think this story is also about paying attention to when things and people and places need some extra care and attention to thrive lest desperation and rash decisions lead us all down a path of destruction rather than toward that place where "they shall beat their swords into plowshares, and their spears into pruning hooks; nation shall not lift up sword against nation, neither shall they learn war any more; but they shall all sit under their own vines and under their own fig trees, and no one shall make them afraid" (Micah 4:3b–4a, NRSV).
Scripture: Luke 13:1-9 (NRSV)At that very time there were some present who told him about the Galileans whose blood Pilate had mingled with their sacrifices. He asked them, 'Do you think that because these Galileans suffered in this way they were worse sinners than all other Galileans? No, I tell you; but unless you repent, you will all perish as they did. Or those eighteen who were killed when the tower of Siloam fell on them— do you think that they were worse offenders than all the others living in Jerusalem? No, I tell you; but unless you repent, you will all perish just as they did.' Then he told this parable: 'A man had a fig tree planted in his vineyard; and he came looking for fruit on it and found none. So he said to the gardener, "See here! For three years I have come looking for fruit on this fig tree, and still I find none. Cut it down! Why should it be wasting the soil?" He replied, "Sir, let it alone for one more year, until I dig round it and put manure on it. If it bears fruit next year, well and good; but if not, you can cut it down."'
Many at TIRR and Hermann are clearly devout. Last night, the nurse changing M sang a spiritual over him. Many tell me to pray. Not all believe, though, and I have to remember not to assume (just as that's true for some of you reading this). All are amazed at M's progress and reassure me, knowing that light speed still doesn't seem fast enough for me.
Yesterday, M's nurse, Jorge said, "I don't know who you're praying to, but he's listening." I just said in return I KNOW who I am praying to. So the ground is being prepared. Please pray that M and I too will bear fruit.
From Goshen College
http://www.goshen.edu/cgi-bin/blosxom/devLent07/2007/Mar/09/March9-Justabitmore
March 9 - Just a bit more
By Malinda Berry, visiting scholar in religion and women’s studies.
Scripture: Luke 13:1-9 (NRSV) Scroll down for complete scripture.
Devotional:When I first read today’s lection, I thought it rather odd — there are lots of pronouns and not much context. In my copy of the NRSV titles to chapter thirteen’s opening section "Repent or Perish" which makes some sense: "Produce fruit or be cut down!" But I find I’m more interested in the gardener’s intercessory pleading with his employer: "Wait, give me a chance to nurture the tree a bit more. If nothing changes, then you can do what you want with it." At face value, it appears as though Abba is the vineyard owner, Jesus is the gardener and humankind is the unproductive fig tree. But parables are never that simple. Commentators point out that Jesus tells this story in response to the talk about town regarding Pilate’s suppression of a recent Jewish uprising in Galilee. The Gailean rebels failed in their attempt to overthrow Pilate, Caesar’s local representative — their actions, like what the vineyard owner proposes, were rash and brought death. But criticizing those who died and the way they died doesn’t make the living virtuous. So where does that leave us? From where I sit, this parable is about more than righteousness, judgment and intercession. I think this story is also about paying attention to when things and people and places need some extra care and attention to thrive lest desperation and rash decisions lead us all down a path of destruction rather than toward that place where "they shall beat their swords into plowshares, and their spears into pruning hooks; nation shall not lift up sword against nation, neither shall they learn war any more; but they shall all sit under their own vines and under their own fig trees, and no one shall make them afraid" (Micah 4:3b–4a, NRSV).
Scripture: Luke 13:1-9 (NRSV)At that very time there were some present who told him about the Galileans whose blood Pilate had mingled with their sacrifices. He asked them, 'Do you think that because these Galileans suffered in this way they were worse sinners than all other Galileans? No, I tell you; but unless you repent, you will all perish as they did. Or those eighteen who were killed when the tower of Siloam fell on them— do you think that they were worse offenders than all the others living in Jerusalem? No, I tell you; but unless you repent, you will all perish just as they did.' Then he told this parable: 'A man had a fig tree planted in his vineyard; and he came looking for fruit on it and found none. So he said to the gardener, "See here! For three years I have come looking for fruit on this fig tree, and still I find none. Cut it down! Why should it be wasting the soil?" He replied, "Sir, let it alone for one more year, until I dig round it and put manure on it. If it bears fruit next year, well and good; but if not, you can cut it down."'
"Smoking the competition"
Two days ago marked one month since M's accident. This week in particular has been one of many changes. The trach is out and the breathing treatments (albuterol) have been discontinued. He passed his final swallowing test - can he eat a hamburger - with flying colors and so can eat anything anyone else can. He's daily gaining more trunk and head control. Even so, he still needs contant care for everything, not being able to turn himself in bed, attend to bodily functions, get to the wheelchair, etc. Yesterday, though, the nurse said to hold off on any modifications to the house because M is improving so fast. His is the quote in the title for today. And, such sweet sounds, I heard M say my name, his sister's and the children's yesterday. More often than not, he still can't reply to questions, but each day he speaks a little more. And he smiles and laughs. As a lagniappe, our golden retriever has been cleared to visit M in his room at the hospital.
Psalm 111 NIV
1Praise the LORD.
I will extol the LORD with all my heart
in the council of the upright and in the assembly.
2 Great are the works of the LORD;
they are pondered by all who delight in them.
3 Glorious and majestic are his deeds,
and his righteousness endures forever.
4 He has caused his wonders to be remembered;
the LORD is gracious and compassionate.
5 He provides food for those who fear him;
he remembers his covenant forever.
6 He has shown his people the power of his works,
giving them the lands of other nations.
7 The works of his hands are faithful and just;
all his precepts are trustworthy.
8 They are steadfast for ever and ever,
done in faithfulness and uprightness.
Psalm 111 NIV
1Praise the LORD.
I will extol the LORD with all my heart
in the council of the upright and in the assembly.
2 Great are the works of the LORD;
they are pondered by all who delight in them.
3 Glorious and majestic are his deeds,
and his righteousness endures forever.
4 He has caused his wonders to be remembered;
the LORD is gracious and compassionate.
5 He provides food for those who fear him;
he remembers his covenant forever.
6 He has shown his people the power of his works,
giving them the lands of other nations.
7 The works of his hands are faithful and just;
all his precepts are trustworthy.
8 They are steadfast for ever and ever,
done in faithfulness and uprightness.
Wednesday, March 7, 2007
Tracheotomy is gone!
Just like that, the doctor pulled it out and bandaged the area. It should close in a few days. Everyone is pleased with M's progress and thinks he'll go far. Because he is young(ish), fit, and is "oriented" mentally, they think he can improve with a lot of therapy, thus they plan (at this point and pending weekly insurance approvals) to keep M for 8 weeks. He's smiling lots and even laughing at jokes.
Tuesday, March 6, 2007
Passing another test
Having passed the swallowing test (an interesting procedure with barium and real-time X-rays), M had solid food for lunch and dinner. I'm feeding him for now, though he can pick things up with his right hand and he himself is taking care of holding a cup and drinking. Speaking is very hard, but he can every great now and again. I'm told it will get easier and easier.
And I had the answer to prayer when he held my hand, brought it to his mouth and kissed it. What bliss! It's like being a teenager again.
God's strength and love is all around; sometimes I feel suffused with it. I pray all reading this will know how much he cares for each one of us.
And I had the answer to prayer when he held my hand, brought it to his mouth and kissed it. What bliss! It's like being a teenager again.
God's strength and love is all around; sometimes I feel suffused with it. I pray all reading this will know how much he cares for each one of us.
Monday, March 5, 2007
Rehab begins in earnest
M had an hour of speech therapy (though he's not speaking, he recognizes words and pictures), sat up supported in physical therapy, and continued his occupational therapy evaluation. He's being weaned off the stomach feeding and trach as well. I'm in the thick of it too, staying at the hospital about 22 of 24 hours/day. Blessings all!
Sunday, March 4, 2007
Great progress
We're at TIRR and have been since Friday night. So many prayers have been answered. Rehab started Sat. I've seen many things that tell me M's ability to understand complex language remains intact. These are v. exciting days.
M's left side still is much weaker and he's not walking yet. "Yet" will be our adverb of choice these days. Blessings all.
M's left side still is much weaker and he's not walking yet. "Yet" will be our adverb of choice these days. Blessings all.
Friday, March 2, 2007
We're off to TIRR! Any minute now, which in hospitalese I've found can mean sometime in the next six hours or more. Mark puckers up for a kiss (for me only I hope) and waved goodbye to me today. His internal medicine dr (great guy BTW) says he thinks Mark will be walking back in Hermann 6 months from now. God willing and God has been so good so far.
A colleague's opinion
From Jack Lejune, a court reporter M respects highly. Ma took Jack to Paris a few years ago instead of me!
Though I have met and worked with, quite likely, over a thousand attorneys in the past 34 years, M stands out, even in such a large group. He’s always friendly, patient and, most notably, always happy. I’ve seen, on numerous occasions, defense counsel (as many as 8) become upset (seemingly) with M, tell him he’s wrong, sometimes angrily, at times condescendingly and, M to his credit, presses on, unswayed, unintimidated and, again most notably, happily; smiling all the while. Unflappable; that’s M. Perhaps he thrives on controversy. Perhaps he finds humorous the attempts of others to “derail” him. I don’t know, but it’s an admirable quality, one I’ve very much enjoyed observing.
M is a special human being and one of my favorite attorneys to work with. Hopefully he will attain full recovery so that we can all have the pleasure of his company, his presence, for many years to come.
Thank you, Jack. I would love others to send me their stories, too.
Though I have met and worked with, quite likely, over a thousand attorneys in the past 34 years, M stands out, even in such a large group. He’s always friendly, patient and, most notably, always happy. I’ve seen, on numerous occasions, defense counsel (as many as 8) become upset (seemingly) with M, tell him he’s wrong, sometimes angrily, at times condescendingly and, M to his credit, presses on, unswayed, unintimidated and, again most notably, happily; smiling all the while. Unflappable; that’s M. Perhaps he thrives on controversy. Perhaps he finds humorous the attempts of others to “derail” him. I don’t know, but it’s an admirable quality, one I’ve very much enjoyed observing.
M is a special human being and one of my favorite attorneys to work with. Hopefully he will attain full recovery so that we can all have the pleasure of his company, his presence, for many years to come.
Thank you, Jack. I would love others to send me their stories, too.
Thursday, March 1, 2007
Improvement
But the improvement seems glacial to me, though the docs are impressed with his speed of recovery. He has some purposeful movement, is clearly awake, but has considerable left-side weakness and cannot yet communicate. As soon as a bed opens in TIRR, we're going there.
Please pray for all of us and for everyone, families and workers, at Hermann. Today was such a lovely day here, bright with the promise of spring. I refuse to believe that M won't be fully enjoying the breezes, sights, and smells of spring some day, in the thick of it, being pysically active as he loves to be. Thank you all.
Psalm 107:1
Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good; his love endures forever
Please pray for all of us and for everyone, families and workers, at Hermann. Today was such a lovely day here, bright with the promise of spring. I refuse to believe that M won't be fully enjoying the breezes, sights, and smells of spring some day, in the thick of it, being pysically active as he loves to be. Thank you all.
Psalm 107:1
Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good; his love endures forever
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